Why are Filipino's bad mannered to each other?

[babel-fish]

It always annoys me when people lack manners, I expect it is because I am British and have been taught that saying please and thank you or excuse me was very important and respectful. In all the many Filipino languages please, thank you and excuse me can be translated and they mean exactly the same.

I wonder why Filipino’s never seem to use these words of respect, often I sit outside a local shop drinking a cold beer. I hear children and adults asking for items and without using a single polite word.

If I am shopping with my partner, Filipino’s barge by me like I did not exist, I have had elbows dug in my back and when I get annoyed the offender looks at me with a face that states I am in the wrong.

Are the children taught these kind respectful words at home or at school apparently not as the parents do not use them and the teachers seemly go around being rude as well. If I was a shop owner I would not serve anybody that was not good manner or respectful.

I wonder if this rude attitude is a hand me down from the Americans from the colonial days? I have noted that many Americans are just as rude but not all of them of course, so 'Joe' don't take what I say to heart unless your bad mannered, lol I sometimes notice the thank you when you recieve but not the please when you ask. Perhaps these people are type casting the movie stars who similarly seem to have no polite words added to their script.

If you tell Filipino off for being bad mannered they seemingly think you are arrogant, something is truthfully wrong when people are not polite to each other. To me manners show that someone is civilized and care about their fellow human beings.

What really annoys me most is the fact when a foreigner gives a gift these filipino’s suddenly seem to remember the polite words or if a child are prompted by their parents to say thank you. That tells me they know what manners are but why don’t they use politeness to other Filipino’s in the streets and shops? I expect that they realize if they are polite to the foreigner he or she may keep on giving gifts. lol

[tubigboy]

Probably something to do with the 'crab mentality' here in the Philippines

[jellyfish]

Surely not specific for Filipino's.
I can name many other countries I've been, where you can find that same 'attitude'.
They simply are different from us (I'm Dutch ).
The British .......yes, they have a good tradition regarding saying "thank you, please, you're welcome ....( and "are you being served sir " )".
Good examples of sometimes even an over polite behaviour.
The "famous" British hooligans don't practise that however .
I don't judge those countries on not saying these words.
Why should I ? Do they have to be the same as we are ?
As long as they don't harm me or get me furious, I'm fine with them.

[babel-fish]

The "famous" British hooligans don't practise that however

why bring that into debate ever country has its hooligans we are talking about politeness that will bring in tourism at present I* cant see much. I* myself have great manners I open doors and move chairs for the fairer sex and stick to one beautiful partner. How are your manners?

[babel-fish]

When you speak an understand the laguage its only then you see the problem however educated filipinos are very good manner and those that are not so educated if they knew the problem in good filipino tradition and pride would show you manners.

[jellyfish]

Originally Posted by babel-fish

why bring that into debate ever country has its hooligans we are talking about politeness that will bring in tourism at present I* cant see much. I* myself have great manners I open doors and move chairs for the fairer sex and stick to one beautiful partner. How are your manners?

I did not bring it into DEBATE ! No need to debate.
As you yourself already mentioned that it is a general statement which is valid for many countries with hooligans or the like.
Did I hurt your English heart ? Some Americans will feel the same about some statements earlier made on another topic.
My manners ?? Sometimes (mostly ...others say !) good, sometimes bad.
Especially when I read or hear B@%+##t I get to become less polite

[babel-fish]

[quote]did not bring it into DEBATE ! No need to debate.
As you yourself already mentioned that it is a general statement which is valid for many countries with hooligans or the like.
Did I hurt your English heart ? Some Americans will feel the same about some statements earlier made on another topic.
My manners ?? Sometimes (mostly ...others say !) good, sometimes bad.
Especially when I read or hear B@%+##t I get to become less polite [/

You brought up the subject of hooliganism, yes we have them but it was not my argument only yours which doesnot seem very accademic. But please state your name rank and number. Why I say this is because your looking very silly.

My english heart is a Polish one mixed with German and Jewish abstraction and some welsh with a good mixture of global travel, military and killing a few people for patrotism. A patrotism lost to objection, am just a citizen of the world that is very unhappy at what i see. I am of course a person that wants to see the real peace in our time. And the one that so disapointed in my fellow man thats become the sheep of explotation. Who are you to judge?

Wow you are someone special? I am not

[shiba]

Originally Posted by jellyfish

Surely not specific for Filipino's.
I can name many other countries I've been, where you can find that same 'attitude'.
They simply are different from us (I'm Dutch ).
The British .......yes, they have a good tradition regarding saying "thank you, please, you're welcome ....( and "are you being served sir " )".
Good examples of sometimes even an over polite behaviour.
The "famous" British hooligans don't practise that however .
I don't judge those countries on not saying these words.
Why should I ? Do they have to be the same as we are ?
As long as they don't harm me or get me furious, I'm fine with them.

Hello Jelly, thank you for your observation...I totally agree.

Filipinos are by nature, not much on words. By this, I mean that they are more on body language, tone of voice and facial expressions which is embedded in their culture so it is normal behaviour for them. Surely not normal behaviour for someone with totally different culture.

[babel-fish]

Filipinos are by nature, not much on words. By this, I mean that they are more on body language, tone of voice and facial expressions which is embedded in their culture so it is normal behaviour for them. Surely not normal behaviour for someone with totally different culture.

Oh no, thats a poor excuse for bad manners all that pointing lips thing and a smile or raising eyebrowes and a respect for older relatives has nothing to do good old good manners. God knows how many people have barged pass me with out a word or try to get served before me. I have been studying culture here for some years now and have not notice a filipino body lanquage that means please thank you but there is one for escuse two hand palms together in a downward direction. Its not used much though.

The way people drive on the road here gives every indication that to most Filipino's do not have manners only some have. Think about it. lol

[balustre]

"Surely not specific for Filipino's.
I can name many other countries I've been, where you can find that same 'attitude'.
They simply are different from us (I'm Dutch ).
The British .......yes, they have a good tradition regarding saying "thank you, please, you're welcome ....( and "are you being served sir " )".
Good examples of sometimes even an over polite behaviour.
The "famous" British hooligans don't practise that however .
I don't judge those countries on not saying these words.
Why should I ? Do they have to be the same as we are ?
As long as they don't harm me or get me furious, I'm fine with them."

I like your attitude, Jellyfish, because you respect other cultures and don't resort to "Filipino-bashing".