On his way back from Siquijor in a Roro last Sunday, Martin was sitting in his car when the "Man Overboard" siren wailed. Jumping up to see what happened, the crew was scurrying about clueless what to do as a local woman thrashes in the wake, quickly being left behind. She had fallen off the upper deck somehow. As an accomplished swimmer he quickly dove in. Being 6'7" helped him cover the now 100 meters, and rapidly growing, back to her In just a few minutes. As he swam he saw her head sinking out of sight, then surfacing, over and over. When he made it to her she was unconscious and floating face down. Thinking fast he bear hugged" her and squeezed, but it took three hugs before she finally gagged and took a breath. He began to swim back pulling her, the adrenalin giving him extra strength. This was not a small Pinay. Finally the ferry had completed its U-turn back to the scene, and someone threw him a float ring. Together they were pulled back onboard, to the cheers of everyone. Its men like this that make us foreigners less like grumpy old men. The next time you see him, buy him a beer!
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- Thread: Why do expats love Dumaguete?
This video has the feel of one of the countless times I have watched some drunken dude in a bar here drone on about nothing interesting. Why give this guy the time of day? He must think he is quite special that I should convince him with reports, spreadsheets, expert testimonials, etc. Especially when he didn't offer anything of the sort himself.
There is nothing controversial about drunken rambling.
I don't know this is quite trolling, but you can see how easy it is to bait people on Facebook.
As for the material.
Yes, poor women seek security from men who can provide for both her and the family. This happens in every country. Once poor women become independent, then the needs change as they work their way up the needs charts. This genius insight was probably discovered back when we were living in caves. Congrats to him for figuring it out.
The U.S. per capita GDP is so large that the Philippines is more the norm than the exception. U.S. income is the outlier, not the Philippines. This disparity follows Americans to the majority of comparisons with random people in this world. People don't need to come to the Philippines to be the rich man among poor women.
Old, white men come here because they can. We like to travel and explore. Even before we learned to walk, we were crawling places and getting into sh*t. When we get here, we feel comfortable.
There are many publications which show Dumaguete as a great retirement location. You won't find prostitution listed among the reasons.
This guy just needs to get back to the bar (or Missouri) and keep his conversations between other drunks rather than broadcasting himself to the world.
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- Thread: Why do expats love Dumaguete?
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- Thread: Not all dome and gloom
I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked… “Just a minute,” answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90’s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940’s movie.
By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.
There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
“Would you carry my bag out to the car?” she asked. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.
She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.
She kept thanking me for my kindness. “It’s nothing”, I told her. “I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.”
“Oh, you’re such a good boy,” she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, “Could you drive through downtown?”
“It’s not the shortest way,” I answered quickly…
“Oh, I don’t mind,” she said. “I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.”
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. “I don’t have any family left,” she continued in a soft voice… “The doctor says I don’t have very long.”
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.
“What route would you like me to take?” I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.
We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, “I’m tired. Let’s go now.”
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.
Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.They must have been expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
“How much do I owe you?” She asked, reaching into her purse.
“Nothing,” I said
“You have to make a living,” she answered.
“There are other passengers,” I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
“You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,” she said. “Thank you.”
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life…
I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day,I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.
We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.
But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
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- Thread: Tapatalk is un-Banned
Tapatalk recently decided that it would be a-ok to add a chat feature to their app and call it the "Official" Dumaguete Info chat room without giving any notice to me (or other forum admins). This chat room is also completely controlled by Tapatalk and I have absolutely no ability to moderate or turn off this feature. I take this as Tapatalk trying to hijack the forum and take content and discussions away from the main forums. This simply will not be tolerated.
On top of this they decided it would be a good idea to delete/moderate MY tirade posted in the "DI Chat Room" explaining my disgust for the feature being added without consent. This is a big no-go for me. The only people that should be able to moderate on this forum (and on any features claiming to be a part of DI) is the people I have assigned those privileges to and under NO circumstance should some nameless third-party person be able to moderate a forum owner's content.
Tapatalk is banned.
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- Thread: Update to Forum Rules
I have made several changes to the forum rules due to recent issues I have been seeing. These changes are mainly concerning the Showcase section of the website. Here are the changes:
All business listings, advertising and promotional posts MUST be made in, and only in, the Showcase section. When creating a Showcase item a forum thread will automatically be created in the appropriate forum sub-forum. The thread linked to a showcase thread is for general discussion about the business and also provide a place for businesses to reply to customer discussions (not to post promotional posts). All businesses are allowed to make one (1) promotional post per month in the Showcase comment section.
I will create a notice about this update on the forum so that everyone will see these changes.
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Just noticed it's been a little over a year since the switch to the new forum software. Here are the monthly stats since the software changeover back in October of last year.
Blue line is how many overall posts there were per month.
Orange line is how many threads started per month.
Light Blue is how many users were active per month.
The totals for this one year period are:
Total Posts: 23,793
Total Threads: 6,945
Some History On DI
@The Dane made the first post to DI more than 9 years ago back in October of 2006. The forum has changed hands a few times since and I took over the forum from @shadow back in September of last year.
DI hit both 10,000 threads and 100,000 posts in June of last year. (We've added more than 7k threads and 28k posts in a little more than a year!)
I'm very pleased with the steady upward trend in these stats and forum activity and want to say "thanks" to all the members who help keep this board active, friendly, inviting and useful to people looking for information about Dumaguete and the Philippines. Without the collective knowledge of the members here this forum would not be possible. Many thanks to all the members here on DI!
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- Thread: Kidnapping business
There are places I would not go in this country where I would consider your assessment valid. For me, I will not travel, vacation or ride within the Autonomous Region in Muslim Mindanao (ARMM) or any of the provinces that border it. I would also not travel to the Muslim areas in southern Palawan. I simply will not go to any area that has a large population of Muslims.....unless I'm getting paid a lot of money to do it and I have military protection. Luckily Muslims make up only 5% of the population in the Philippines and they are mostly concentrated in certain areas. It's easy to avoid them. As for the NPA.....meh. Their problem is with the government, not expats. I've ran into a group of them one time and they had absolutely no interest in me whatsoever. (I have also known one or two individuals that were allegedly members. Nice enough people.....completely clueless about the realities of communism and human nature (not that I was about to get into a political debate with them on the subject)....but nice enough.
(Avoid at all costs!)
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